So I am sure I am not the only one who has a grandmother in law that yells “you are spoiling her” whenever she sees my husband pushing Paige in the pram to sleep …. 🤣
In all honesty though this makes me so mad , for so many reasons; first , at this stage I will do WHATEVER it takes to get her to sleep, whether that means I must stand on my head humming a lullaby , so be it !
Second of all , I don’t believe that I can shower my baby with too much of anything quite frankly , she is only starting to see all the colors now , I mean , she does not understand why I am leaving her when she cries or why I don’t want to console her . Just thinking about this breaks my heart .
I will most probably be the strict parent between me and my husband , but at the appropriate age where she can learn right from wrong and understand consequences.
I honestly think this “spoiling ” thing is from the older generation , they all say and do it ….
At the end of the day , I would just prefer people disagreeing with my parenting in private , to their friends and husbands behind my back, like normal people 🤣
Cause quite frankly , its none of your business !
What is sleeping through ?
Well I still don’t know haha
I hear of moms brag about it from like 2 or 3 months old , at this stage I am quite convinced that my baby girl will never sleep through 🙈👀
She is 4 months old and going through sleep regression , so she is literally sleeping less every day ! Our days consist of 3-4 30 minute naps and our nights she wakes up about every 3 hours , shes just fussy at night time , no matter what I do .
I have accepted this as a norm at this point haha , and have reverted to a giggly state due to tiredness ….
Here’s hoping (and praying) that the night comes soon and I can also brag about it 🤣
Being a new mom takes up A LOT of your time …
And not just that , you tend to voluntarily give it up to your little bundle.
This affected my marriage on every level ; little conversations about our days disappeared because its bath time, intimacy disappeared because , well, you are way to tired to even brush your hair , let alone feel sexy.
One word … HORMONES ! (The crazy mood swings)
The sleep deprivation is a whole other ball game .. you both seem to crack under the pressure you put on yourself and you end up fighting about him looking at you funny ! 🤣
The key is to breathe and let it pass , give each other space to adapt to this whole new world of being a parent because its HUGE the first time , for both of you , and in different ways.
Finding myself in this new role, I had to consciously make an effort to give some of my time to my marriage, to sit and listen and just chat again, this is why bedtime is so important in our house, and we stick by it because it means that we have time together.
Who said being a wife and a mother is easy ?